Posted by (+4947) 13 years ago
Saw this thread on another website and thought it worth repeating here.
For 35 years of my life now, I've been trying not to offend the Christian conservative and born again members of my own family. My mom and dad are born again fundamentalists, but they are also life long Democrats. My brother is a Christian conservative who voted for bush TWICE.
Oh how hard I've tried to be diplomatic, parsing words, avoiding certain subjects, attempts at meeting them halfway, I've tried valiantly to be objective, I've tried quoting the bible, I've tried the beatitudes, logic, and I've run out of ways to avoid offending them, in fact, I've resigned myself to the fact that it is quite impossible to refrain from offending them, there is always something I say or do that they find offensive.
My family is a tiny microcosm of the huge population of radical born agains and Christian conservatives, I know how they think, I know how they reason, and what motivates them to vote, I know how they see the world and I know what their eventual agenda is. I have tolerated them all the way. Yet they have absolutely no tolerance for me and my kind, the secular humanists.
As their population increases, and they gain more political power in our society, and they gain a foothold in our government as actual elected officials, our nation doesn't even see the danger. And I mean real danger.
If you even mention the word evolution, you can get into ridiculous arguments with fundamentalists, so one is inclined not to even mention it, which is a way of giving in to them. Some would rather just drop certain subjects, or avoid them altogether so as not to get into heated arguments with fundamentalists, who don't appreciate anyone daring to confront them on their beliefs.
"Bashing" is the word used to describe critics of religion. Say anything negative about someone's religion, Mormon, Baptist, Wiccan or Catholic, say anything at all critical about the pope or Billy Graham and you're bashing someone's religion. Bashing describes a physical assault with a blunt instrument, which is way too dramatic a description to apply to anyone who ridicules the people who flock to a stain on a wall under an overpass that resembles a saint to pray and lay flowers. If I ridicule someone who does this, I am supposedly bashing their religion.
Personally, I am constantly offended by the religious, but I keep it to myself for the most part. I don't set out to offend the religious, I'm not confrontational to the extreme, but I invariably do offend certain zealots when the subjects of religion or politics come up, I just can't help it sometimes.
We have to do it here at DU too, we have to be careful how we discuss religion, we have to be careful not to offend, which is very tricky sometimes. Can an atheist and a Baptist have a decent conversation without descending into hurt personal feelings and slights and name calling? I'll bet it happens all the time, but I have grown weary of tip toeing around certain words and subjects with certain people in an effort not to offend them, and I've grown weary of holding my tongue, because I see radical fundamentalism as a threat to the whole human population, the world over.
For 35 years of my life now, I've been trying not to offend the Christian conservative and born again members of my own family. My mom and dad are born again fundamentalists, but they are also life long Democrats. My brother is a Christian conservative who voted for bush TWICE.
Oh how hard I've tried to be diplomatic, parsing words, avoiding certain subjects, attempts at meeting them halfway, I've tried valiantly to be objective, I've tried quoting the bible, I've tried the beatitudes, logic, and I've run out of ways to avoid offending them, in fact, I've resigned myself to the fact that it is quite impossible to refrain from offending them, there is always something I say or do that they find offensive.
My family is a tiny microcosm of the huge population of radical born agains and Christian conservatives, I know how they think, I know how they reason, and what motivates them to vote, I know how they see the world and I know what their eventual agenda is. I have tolerated them all the way. Yet they have absolutely no tolerance for me and my kind, the secular humanists.
As their population increases, and they gain more political power in our society, and they gain a foothold in our government as actual elected officials, our nation doesn't even see the danger. And I mean real danger.
If you even mention the word evolution, you can get into ridiculous arguments with fundamentalists, so one is inclined not to even mention it, which is a way of giving in to them. Some would rather just drop certain subjects, or avoid them altogether so as not to get into heated arguments with fundamentalists, who don't appreciate anyone daring to confront them on their beliefs.
"Bashing" is the word used to describe critics of religion. Say anything negative about someone's religion, Mormon, Baptist, Wiccan or Catholic, say anything at all critical about the pope or Billy Graham and you're bashing someone's religion. Bashing describes a physical assault with a blunt instrument, which is way too dramatic a description to apply to anyone who ridicules the people who flock to a stain on a wall under an overpass that resembles a saint to pray and lay flowers. If I ridicule someone who does this, I am supposedly bashing their religion.
Personally, I am constantly offended by the religious, but I keep it to myself for the most part. I don't set out to offend the religious, I'm not confrontational to the extreme, but I invariably do offend certain zealots when the subjects of religion or politics come up, I just can't help it sometimes.
We have to do it here at DU too, we have to be careful how we discuss religion, we have to be careful not to offend, which is very tricky sometimes. Can an atheist and a Baptist have a decent conversation without descending into hurt personal feelings and slights and name calling? I'll bet it happens all the time, but I have grown weary of tip toeing around certain words and subjects with certain people in an effort not to offend them, and I've grown weary of holding my tongue, because I see radical fundamentalism as a threat to the whole human population, the world over.