Where can you get a job when your pregnant? I'v tried a lot of places and I feel like im being shut down because im to far along and due Christmas time.. I can't stay unemployeed for 3 months.. Cost of living isn't cheap, im sure people could agree. Plus im not 18 until March.. Any ideas?

Go down to Job Service and talk to them, sometimes they have temporary positions for work..also see Health and Welfare about getting some help until you get on your feet. Good luck

our Job Service's office has great people. They will help you and give you direction! God Bless!

All good ideas. With your first paycheck I suggest you buy a box of condoms.

WOW Wendy, I don't think she was asking for anyones ideas about birth control. Your just plan rude!!! Too bad your parents didn't use their check and buy some condoms.

Wow, it would suck to be around such a miserable negative person like wendy to have to look at your self in the morning in a mirror

Jesus Christ Wendy, why would you think that this is something that a teen mother would need to hear? Is that the first thing you'll tell your daughter should she find herself in a family way?

I'd hope not.

Totally agree Windy. None of you bees wax. At least she wants a job unlike LOTS of others.

Too bad your parents didn't use their check and buy some condoms.

I'm not going to say why this is funny, but it really is.

May I ask, is the father stepping up to his responsibilities?

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This is gonna get really good. I can just tell. When all else fails, the best laughs are right here at mc.com. It is truly addicting.

LaciLou, I felt the EXACT same way when I was pregnant! I did finally get a job at little 'ol McDonald's. They let me work the hours I wanted and totally understood when I had to go on early maternity leave. Just a thought?

Actually when I was pregnant at 27 yrs old, I got laid off when they discovered I was preggers...that was legal in those days...so consider yourself lucky in todays age as there is a lot of help out there for pregnancies and the problems that occur as a result...

Im glad we have immature adults in this town Wow. Anyways, i have amazing supporting parents that are willing to help me through this. I just was hoping to get on my feet while pregnant. But I guess that's to much to ask. And Wendy, im sure if you read the box on condoms, it says not 100% effective. But thanks for the advice. Haha. Guess all I should say is "Welcome to Miles City, Montana... Full of Teen Pregnancy". Diss on one, your dissing on all. Thanks everyone else for standing up to an immature adult. Her mother must of not taught her a good word of advise, Nothing nice to say, dont say anything at all.

I don't think Wendy even lives here. I don't think half the people who live their lives on here do. And for the person asking about the father if he's helping, what does it matter to you? She was only asking about jobs, probably not wanting to disclose all her personal details. No wonder this website is lame. Good luck in the job hunt.

[This message has been edited by Samantha (10/15/2012)]

Welcome to Miles City, Montana... Full of Teen Pregnancy

I think that's actually the sign outside of Broadus.

I was afraid the grammar might go downhill on this thread. Although I commend the original poster for getting it right.

For clarification, it is:

Pregnant Women

and:

Pregnate Teens

in Miles City.

Yeah, Wendy. Condoms aren't 100% effective. You have to put it on if you expect it to work.

And for the person asking about the father if he's helping, what does it matter to you?

I was asking out of genuine concern. If he isn't, it indicates an even more desperate situation for this young lady. If he hadn't, I'd thought about setting up a monetary fund at the bank to help her out. But everyone always assumes I have nefarious intent, so I guess I'm just going to have to say FU Que!

Maybe she's married, maybe she wanted to be pregnant. Things like this do happen to people don't they Buck?

Too bad about your attempt to get advice. At least we were able to provide some free sanctimoniousness.

My response was directed at:

And Wendy, im sure if you read the box on condoms, it says not 100% effective.

Don't trash a safe, effective form of contraception because you didn't use it. "Not 100%" doesn't mean, "Don't even bother."

If I were going to criticize her family planning skills, I would have, but I didn't because "family planning" and "I'm 17, pregnant, and jobless" don't belong in the same sentence.

Now do I feel bad for the girl because she made an adult choice she wasn't ready for? No, not really, but I do feel bad for her baby because the baby didn't get a choice. By law, employers can't hold her pregnancy against her. They see she's pregnant and find something else to hold against her. The best advice we can give her is to show up to job interviews in a t-shirt that says, "Don't ask, I'm just fat."

As an associate member of the "17, pregnant and jobless" club, I'm going to attempt to move this conversation beyond the (admittedly mild) slut shaming that some of the erstwhile progressives seem to be indulging in, and suggest that, regardless of whatever else happens, get your degree.

An unplanned child isn't automatically a death sentence of hopes and dreams, but it does mean that some of those things will have to be adjusted - but most of those things probably weren't attainable anyways without a college education, so suck up as much of that public assistance as you can and enroll at MCC.

Excellent post Bridgier...!!!

Okay, okay, Bridgier gave you the best advice. The t-shirt, being the only other advice, still rolls in at number two.

The rest of you kids out there - wear a damn rubber... and go to college. And especially wear a rubber at college. Also, flip flops are a must.

Got your message Buck. Hope You got mine.

Bridgier: That might be your best post ever. Well done!

Let me guess, Bridgier's girlfriend got pregnant because he was not aware of the existence of condoms?

Maybe I'm naive, but I don't think too many newly pregnant (pregnate?) teens would go "Huh? What's that?" if you handed them a condom. It's sort of like telling the quarterback "you should have watched out for the free safety" after he throws a pick. He knows.

Let me guess, Bridgier's girlfriend got pregnant because he was not aware of the existence of condoms?

No, he didn't see the free safety.

As the biological child of a 15 year old mother (and adopted), I find all the "poor pregnant teen" crap hilarious. The best thing this girl could do for herself and especially for the baby is give the baby up for adoption and get on with her life. And use condoms. Sorry, Bridgier, my friend. It needs to be said.

I have to agree with Wendy, that in most cases, the child has a better chance with a loving family that has "chosen" him/her rather than staying with a poverty striken family that is according to statistics going to stay that way in the foreseeable future...Bridgier, most folks don't continue their college years much less post grad years after having babies according to stats at least...at least with an education one has a chance at a middle class life at least IMO..I also believe in most cases, it takes more love to give up a child for adoption than to cling to them as a true parent wants their child to have the best chance...

As the biological child of a 15 year old mother (and adopted), I find all the "poor pregnant teen" crap hilarious. The best thing this girl could do for herself and especially for the baby is give the baby up for adoption and get on with her life. And use condoms. Sorry, Bridgier, my friend. It needs to be said.

There you have it folks, the reason abortions should be legal. Wendy's mom must of thought the goop on the end of the clothes hanger was all of it, must of just been some brains.

I guess I fail to read or assume where this girl can't or won't give the baby a good life. She is looking for work, and apparently on or trying to get on her own. I wish Lacilou the best of luck.

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K.D. that is a very mean spirited post and one which is much worse than Wendys original post...I am sorry for you...Compassion goes both ways...

There you have it folks, the reason abortions should be legal. Wendy's mom must of thought the goop on the end of the clothes hanger was all of it, must of just been some brains.

GEEZ Louise! REALLY??? K.D. I assure you that that you have NO FRICKING clue what you are talking about where Wendy and her family is concerned. Please stop with your idle speculation.

While it might be harsh, I agree with Wendy's comment about condoms. It was good advice. Wendy is one of the smartest people posting here. And the advice that Bridgier gave was excellent.

K.D.! Good one! Totally agree!

WOW K.D. way to shove bull$hit into another's mouth. What you just posted is a CRAZY a$$ interpretation of what Wendy wrote. If you really think that is what she said, you are delusional and projecting. Oh wait a minute, from all the other batchit you've posted, we already knew that.

Wendy, I'd come to your defense, but I respect your gigantic, steel balls more than that.

Wendy and richard are a pair,dumb asses

Thanks, Buck. That's the nicest thing you've ever said to me.

Wendy and richard are a pair,dumb asses

I might be, but Wendy is not.

Thanks, Richard. You're no dumbass either. All this vitriol has been great fun. It sure doesn't take much to rile the hoi polloi.

[This message has been edited by Wendy Wilson (10/15/2012)]

See ya, Sludge.

Really,,, Wendy and JD posted what they did and "Sledge" gets cicked off???? If I didn't know any better, I'd say the webmaster has a beef with Sledge. Good dig by the way JD,,,, just painted a terrible picture though. Just a dash of tact next time maybe.
Anyhow, back to the original post Laci-Lou,,, I think it was, don't let Wendys woulda-coulda-shoulda BS get to you. The McDonalds thing is a good idea, they pay pretty decent and have benefits available, at least that's what thier advertising says. I applaude your determination and everything will be ok, specially if Mom and Dad are here to help. I've known other people in the same situation that made a go if it and achieved more that most of the people on this topic.

Based on what little "Sledge" has had to offer so far (one and only one post that was a profane attack on other users), I don't think "Sledge" will be missed much. I'm sure if "Sledge" actually has something it feels compelled to say it will do just like you, "Phil", and create another account to say it on.

Dang, looks like I missed the best of it, someone must have suggested the unthinkable. That was all this story was lacking.

Phil Shifley wrote:

Really,,, Wendy and JD posted what they did and "Sledge" gets cicked off???? If I didn't know any better, I'd say the webmaster has a beef with Sledge.

"Sledge H." created an account under an alias to call someone a "dumb ass" on their very first post. That's not a way to welcome themselves to the site.

The rest of what you guys are arguing about, what do you want me to do about it? You're the ones doing it. I made one little chip towards keeping some order. The rest of you need to act a bit more civil when discussing things.

The best I can attribute to LaciLou is- THAT GIRL KNOWS HOW TO SPELL! That's the bs that gets me on here- anyone can (and does) put ANYONE ELSE down- yet they can't even SPELL their own posts correctly! It just drives me absolutely nuts to try to "correct" someone else's shortcomings when they can't even spell their OWN posts correctly! Yet, who am I to judge???

Wendy, my friend, Lacilou didn't ask for your opinions on her birth control choices, nor did she invite a discussion upon her plans regarding little lacilou jr, or the future usage scenarios of her ladyparts - she had an employment question, and nothing beyond that.

Now, I feel that I'm running the risk of mansplaining here, but I honestly feel that if you believe in reproductive choice, then you have to give people the benefit of the doubt in the reproductive choices that they make. Do we know the circumstances that led to Lacilou deciding to keep the baby? Were we part of the conversation between her, the father and their parents? No, and to inject our judgments of their choices from a distance is needlessly vituperative.

Look - if your daughter was to come to you and say, "I'm pregnate, and I have decided to do X", and you really believe she should do Y instead, what do you do? Do you coerce her somehow into Y, or do you support her in X, even if you feel that X is the wrong decision?

Once I was certain that my daughter had decided X after fully considering Y,Z and Q, I don't understand how I could do anything other than support her choice - and I'd be the first person to tell anyone who felt that they knew better than those of us actually in the situation to eat a bag of salty salted dicks.

http://milescity.com/sear...=20&I2.y=9

I'd boot Phil or Hugo until one or the other figures how many commas are necessary.

One or the other? I think Phil and Hugo are the same guy.

Yeah, and so are Ziggy Stardust and David Bowie.

Well said, Bridgier. Thank you.

LaciLou,
The advice about seeking temp jobs from the job service was good. I will second the "get all the education you can". I am certain MCC can help you make a college plan and even get your GED, if you did not graduate. You will likely qualify for financial aid and workstudy. Now is the time to make the future plan, do paperwork, take tests, etc.

If you have any interest in nursing, RN's are making record salaries and are in demand. Otherwise I would stick to business fields. I would suggest a degree in accounting or finance as a final goal. If you have no interest in that, there are lots of technical fields you can make a decent paying career in.

The big thing is to start now with the official preparations so you will feel positive about your future. It will not be easy but you will have a big reason to be more focused and goal oriented than the average student your age. Good luck and stay strong.

Once again, misinterpretation rears an ugly head. Wendy is, as most of you know, a more than competent financial adviser. She was merely suggesting that LaciLou make a tactical commodity purchase, as to buying silver or gold. With current market prices so inflated, less affluent patrons must look to trade in lesser known goods, such as condoms.

Most avid traders use the following book as their guide, and generally refer to themselves as "rubber lubbers".

http://www.amazon.com/Rem...0764304143

Good luck!
FH

[This message has been edited by Frank Hardy (10/16/2012)]

Ah,MC.COM, a microcosm of discourse and social intercourse in the US today. Apregnant teenager asks advice on getting work and it turns into a free for all of name calling, personal slights and downright
nasty attacks about birth control and abortion. Myself included, sorry Buck. I'll bet everyone on this thread has at least one time
not used a condom when warranted or due to religious beliefs. This
girl is probably going, "WTF did I get myself into?" Some of the replys here went way over the line. In case you're wondering I grew up in Miles City and still live in Montana visiting MC a couple of times a year.

Ah, Frank. You're the man.

And don't worry cj, I learned long ago that if you plan on giving it you better learn to take it. Now I've got to go, I just heard church bells so it must be lunch. Oh wait, no, that was Wendy walking by.

Okay, okay. I give. I admit my otherwise sound advice was ill-timed and somewhat flippant. I wish all the best to LaciLou and her child.

After reading all these responses to my nieces innocent question, let me respond from "our family" perspective. LaciLou asked a genuine question and yes, it is unfortunate that she is pregnant and 17 but I will tell you this, she has family support to help her out with this child and NO she is NOT giving the child up for adoption. Our family helps and supports one another and she is doing a DAMN GOOD job of making adult decisions for what's best for her and her child. My family is there for her to help her out with not only her child and the items the child may need but she is continuing her education by getting her degree for high school. So here is what I say to all of you, unless you know the circumstances, mind your own business and as for me and mine, we stick together like glue and will band together in times of crisis. I, for one, am very excited to meet my great-nephew. I love my niece very much and she is doing the best she can. So if you do know of any jobs available, please post otherwise keep your opinions to yourself. Like LaciLou said, if you can't say anything nice, DON'T SAY IT AT ALL!!!!!!

Sharlene. That was an excellent post and I'm relieved to see Laci is getting the support she needs. However,,,(just kidding, Buck), if one wants to avoid sarcasm and flippant advice, might I suggest someone like Dear Abby, Dr. Phil or Dr. Oz and not mc.com? Even those with the best intentions on here often don't know what the f they're talking about.

Good luck to you and your family.

Even those with the best intentions on here often don't know what the f they're talking about

See, I always know what I'm talking about - it's not my fault that people don't listen

The rest of what you guys are arguing about, what do you want me to do about it? You're the ones doing it. I made one little chip towards keeping some order. The rest of you need to act a bit more civil when discussing things.

Can't argue with that,, it does seem pretty hostile. I was also under the impression Sledge has been on here for some time,,, just been quite a while since he posted.

"One or the other? I think Phil and Hugo are the same guy."

Business partners, good observation though. Usually whoever logs in first catches all the grief. Too time consuming to to log in and out every time the other has something to say. There is actually a third but he absolutely hates this web site and rarely posts anymore.

Thanks for clarifying that, Sybil. The whole lot of you has a problem with the use of commas. Kinda like a nervous tic.

Maybe they buy, sell, and trade commas and have an ample supply to use as they wish?

[This message has been edited by Buck Showalter (10/17/2012)]

The thing that gets me with this situation (I know the father's family) is that he is TRYING to be there for her and WANTS to help and be a part of his baby's life and her family won't let him....I am glad that her family is there for her and gives her their 100% support but she could be having 100% support of his family too if she would let them...yes the father and her are not together anymore but at least he is stepping up and wants to have something to do with his baby, he could be like those other dead beat fathers that want their preg. girlfriend to get an abortion or that want nothing to do with the baby...

WANTS to help and be a part of his baby's life and her family won't let him

Paternity cuts both ways - everybody better get ready to lawyer up.

Yup, Bridgier is right, having something to do with the baby isn't up to her or him, it is up to the judge...and if he is a decent type fellow and really wants to be a dad, she cannot stop him...

And unfortunately, if he ISN'T a decent enough fellow, but still wants to be a dad, there's nothing she can do about THAT either.

he is TRYING to be there for her and WANTS to help and be a part of his baby's life and her family won't let him....

Nikilynn--do you really want to go there?? Its best to have him call me, LaciLou's mother, if he feels that way.

This post went from asking for help on finding a job to now bringing up information that does not need to be on here.

Just so everyone knows LaciLou did find a job, a good one with benefits.

[This message has been edited by Sheri C. (10/17/2012)]

Just so everyone knows LaciLou did find a job, a good one with benefits.

Great News!

[This message has been edited by MRH (10/17/2012)]

MRH wrote:

Just so everyone knows LaciLou did find a job, a good one with benefits.

Great News!

Half price McNuggets!!!

Actually, it's only a 40% discount on McNuggets and even if that is where she chose to work (which, by the way, it isn't) there is nothing wrong with working at McDonalds. Thanks for putting down those of us who actually have jobs and take care of their kids instead of using the system.

P.S. Way to go Laci!

[This message has been edited by Ashley Earley (10/17/2012)]

Oh no you di'int

I'm glad LaciLou found a job with benefits. I wish her all the best.

"Oh no you di'int"



Come on Golden Fingers and you're giving me a hard time about my punctuation,,,,,,, guess I'll just start adding more!!!!!

We're so screwed.

Thanks for putting down those of us who actually have jobs and take care of their kids instead of using the system.

THAT'S WHAT "THE SYSTEM" IS FOR.

absolutely nothing wrong with using "the system" and getting your education that is due you and getting further in life for the sake of you and your children...anyone that says different is just being ignorant...

You know darn well I meant those (using the system) who don't bother to even try looking for a job or furthering their education...

The point I was trying to make is that there is nothing wrong with working at McDonalds as was indicated. Its actually one of the higher paying places in Miles City and yes, there are perks such as the discounted nuggets

You know darn well I meant...

Cram it Ashley. I'm a first ballot Mickey D's Hall of Famer. I was super sizing before orange drank rotted out your baby teeth.

Discounted nuggets are not a perk. But there is no shame is doing hard work.

She's not working at a fast food place. Somewhere much better, so the jokes about fast food aren't necessary.

I'm glad she found a job. It sounds like the is mature for her age and a hard worker. I think this thread should have stayed on job prospects instead of taking a huge swing out to criticize her personal choices or circumstances, but then again maybe the last thing you want to do is mention your personal situation while looking for a job among people who can't see you. I would imagine ALL 17 and 18 year olds have to look pretty hard to find a good job without a college degree these days. The way the economy is going, it is pretty hard to find a job even WITH a college degree, especially if you don't have a very specialized one that aligns with job prospects in the area.

I was about to suggest that she talk to people who are hiring extra people for the Christmas Season. There are always more jobs in the retail sector (and package and mail delivery services) this time of year and if you are a hard worker and people in the company like you, often it could turn into a more permanet job down the road.

Good for you girl! I was a pregnant teen who also used protection and still ended up pregnant... I still graduated with a 3.8 GPA, went to college, got a degree, we make decent money now, own a house, own a new car and live wonderful lives! Just because you get pregnant doesn't mean your life is over...its really just beginning. Age doesn't matter. I've been in your postition before and had people like the people on here putting me down and I didn't let it get me down, it made me want to prove them wrong and I did and so can you! I would have never wished teen pregnancy on you or myself, but I wouldn't change it for the world! I'm very proud of you girl and I don't even know you! Most people in your situation would have just used the system and sat on their butts, but you got a job with benefits to provide for your baby and you. You are a stronger and braver person than most of these people posting these ridiculously immature rude comments on here. Stay strong, believe you can do anything! Remember you are not alone, it sounds like you have an amazing family. I always live by "everything happens for a reason". Get em' girl!!!

[This message has been edited by Cassie W. (10/22/2012)]

I would just like to say this is crazy. As many have said before this was about a job not how she got pregnant, why she got pregnant, or what she should do with her baby. This town is full of trash talkers, it makes me sick.

Look around Miles City there are tons of teen pregnancy, so what are you going to do about it? Give a lecture about condoms and birth control? Do any of you even know these kids? What are you doing to help prevent it if your only suggestions are abortion or adoption.

Several of Miles City teenagers are or have been pregnant. Several of these teenagers finsihed high school, NO GED, HIGH SCHOOL and have the support needed to go on to college!!!! This is about a JOB, NOT an innocent life. How dare you tell her to keep her legs closed, use a condom, give her baby up, or have an abortion. This just goes to show how very judgemental this town is. Always putting others down and critizing people for their spelling. How about stepping up and showing support or know what you are talking about before you say something.

It makes me sick that people believe all teen mom use the system and take advantage of it. The system is there to help, but not everyone uses and abuses it. I myself was a teen mom and have a large family. I take care of my own!!! I finished school and have a degree, Does that make my children a mistake?

This is an innocent child that will not have no suffering as I know for a fact he is loved more than anyone could imagine. Way to go Laci Lou for finding that job!!! Thank you everyone who supported her with kind words, and for those of you that couldn't maybe you are the one's that need to be removed from here. I am so sick of seeing everything turn into a negative agrument each time someone is seeking a little advise or make a comment. Grow-up people!!!!

If I'm not mistaken I do believe T.J.'s is still hiring Lace.
Sincerely, Kuder.

Good for you LaciLou and congratulations on finding a job
There is other help available that you might want to look into. WIC, Custer County Food Bank, County Health Department, etc.
Do take advantage of all the help available to you and your baby including finishing school and going to college.
Luck, Health and Happiness.
You go girl!!!!!!!!!